It’s rare to find someone who does not worry or is not impacted by what people think of them. This is especially true now that social media is part of our lives. Although we shouldn’t be completely shameless, worrying so much about public opinion can prevent us from taking positive steps in our lives.
If you say it out loud, it’s quite easy to see how ridiculous it is to put to much energy into trying to please people who, at the end of the day, could not care less about us. However, because this is something we were conditioned to care about since we were children, it will be a difficult habit to drop. So, if this is a fear you would like to leave behind, it’s best that you take your time and be patient with yourself. The three point I will be laying out below has really helped me worry less about what people think of me.
1. People don’t think about you as much as you think they do
Most of the time, we exaggerate how much people are judging us. We adopt a negative mindset and just assume because we got a certain look, it means the person doesn’t like us or even worse, we have done something wrong. With this kind of mindset, we are at the mercy of what we don’t know and can’t control, people’s thoughts. We need to understand that people are not thinking of us that much, if at all. And if they are, we will never know that because we can’t read minds. So why worry about something you will never know.
2. The only opinions that should matter are yours and from those who you respect
People who do not care about you should not be living rent-free in your head. Their opinions should not mean anything because they don’t have a role to play in your life and they don’t benefit you in anyway. Only those who you respect and care about you should count. Because at the end of the day, only they are looking out for your best interest and want you to succeed.
3. Use your block/mute option liberally
Deciding who and what to let in our lives is important because it can either lead us down a path to success or failure. So, in real life and on social media, we should actively avoid those who bring negativity and only seek to put us down. As hard as this can be, removing toxic people from your life will make space for those who bring positivity and will help you on your journey.
As I have said, it will take time to drop this habit. However, through practice and giving yourself time, you will find yourself caring less and less each day.